The Phone in Dad

The phone in dad is a dad that makes excuse after excuse to not show up for parenting his children. Its a parent that fails to show up for this wonderful journey of parenting, and fools himself into believeing he is a good always there parent. He believes that a call is a wonderful substitue for his time, his touch, and that his children will not realize that he has or is slowly checking out of their lives. Now I will make one thing very clear I am not talking about dad through no fault of their own live a ways away from their children, however I am talking about parents that live within a close distance and never shows up.

This father uses these calls to tell their children how great they are and how horrrible their mother is treating them without bothering to hear the whole story. This father might sway their children into believing a "phone in" dad is validated in only calling because  he is busy or has to work or just can't make the drive or does not have the money to make the short trip. What they don't realize is you can't put a dollar amount on spending time with your children. The are guilty of never having the time to make time for their children, and figure the more they work the more they will never be accused of not showing up for their childrens lives.  And that honestly mom doesn't have to say a word you are painting a picture of the true you.

The true beauty of being a parent is not the trips to baseball games, spring break trips or movie dates...the true beauty is when your teenager comes and shares the funny things that happened at school, when your son comes and tells you about the neat song he can play on his guitar. The true beauty is also when your child yells and fights with you because they know you are the safe parent who is not going anywhere. The beauty of being the "always not going anywhere" parents is the everyday day in and day out love they show to you and the development of the "parent-child" relationship to 'parent-almost adult child" who grows to respect and understand the sacrifices you have made.

Simple put the beauty of it is being the parent that gets to see God's love in giving you your children and the love that God has for your children.  And eventually your children will see God's love and the strength he has given you to be both parents that your children need you to be. I only knew a handful of single parents growing up but in the year and half that I have been a single parent I have meet the most incredible God loving single parents out there. And I think ever single one is truly blessed and NOT cursed by the choice or choice that was made that led them to where they are at now. I have meet dads that have spent thousands of dollars to fight to get custody of their children and sadly I have meet parents who didn't have to fight their children was just given up but it is all for the best.

So just because I am who I am i wonder what would happen to the poor sad phone in dad if for some reason he loses the phone number of his children. Would they stress about it or just let it go and figure its another "woe is me" situation. I guess that depends on your type of phone in dad........